41 Signs Your Ex-Boyfriend Misses You

Are you wondering if your ex-boyfriend is missing you? Is he still interested in you romantically after your breakup?

There are many things your ex might be doing that are signs he misses you and your relationship together. While the surest way to know is to ask him, that can be awkward and difficult. 

You can use this list to determine if your ex-boyfriend is still into you. He might be doing one or more of these things that lets you know he still cares about you. Check out the list and find out for yourself. 

Signs Your Ex-Boyfriend Is Missing You

While there is no one indicator that will let you know he’s still interested. Your ex-boyfriend may show one or more of these signs that mean he still has feelings for you. Take a look at the list and determine whether or not he has shown any indication that he misses you.

1. He Tells You He Misses You

Some of the clearest signs that your ex boyfriend still loves you will be in what he says to you. If he’s telling you that he misses you, then that means he probably is missing the relationship too. 

ex boyfriend misses you

2. Your Ex Asks For a Second Chance

If he blatantly asks you for a second chance, then he is definitely missing. Maybe he messed up before and that’s why you called things off. 

If he’s really missing you and wants a chance to do better, that means he still loves and cares for you. He’s also willing to admit fault which can be promising for a better future. 

3. You Have a Gut Feeling

Sometimes you just have to go with your gut. Maybe you haven’t noticed a clear sign that he still has romantic feelings for you. But, for some reason, you just know it in your heart. 

If you have a gut feeling that he still loves you, you might be right. You’ll have to ask him to know for sure, but you can use this intuition as a sign that he’s interested. 

4. He Reminds You the Good Times

If you were dating for a long time, chances are that you’ve shared some great times together. If your ex boyfriend sends you reminders of those times, he might be wanting to get back with you. 

This can look like him texting you something regarding an inside joke, a memory of a trip together, or other details to remind you of the good times. If he’s trying to make you think of how good you had it, he might be trying to rekindle the flame. 

5. He Doesn’t Have a New Relationship

If your ex still hasn’t gotten into a new relationship, his feelings for you might be holding him back. He may just be taking his time jumping back into the dating game. 

However, if you don’t see him with someone new, he might be waiting for you to reach back out. 

6. He Starts Rebound Relationships

On the other hand, if your ex jumps into a relationship too quickly, he might be looking for a rebound. We all know that rebounds don’t make for a healthy relationship. 

Although seeing him with someone new might make you think he has moved on, that isn’t necessarily true. Sometimes people use rebound relationships as a coverup of their true feelings. 

7. He Reacts Negatively to Your New Relationship

If your ex-boyfriend is still into you, seeing you with someone else may bring up some negative emotions for him. He might say negative things about your new relationship or who you’re dating to express this. 

8. He Stays Close to Your Friends

Is he just as close to or closer to your friends now? He might be trying to stay in your circle to maintain contact with you. Inserting himself among your friends might help him feel closer to you and allow him to know what’s going on in your life. 

9. His Body Language Shows It

Pay attention to his body language when you’re around your ex. How he acts toward you physically can tell you a lot. 

If he seems receptive toward you, this may indicate he’s still into you. He might do things like touch your shoulder or smile a lot at you. 

10. He Contacts You on a Regularly

One of the biggest signs that your ex is still interested is if he initiates contact with you all of the time. This shows that he is thinking of you often. 

While it’s possible for people to remain friends and talk after a breakup, it’s not the norm. So, if he’s making a lot of phone calls and texting you, he’s probably still in love with you.

11. He Flaunts His New Love Interest

If your ex is purposely rubbing his new relationship in your face, then he might be using this new girl to make you jealous. His attempts to make you jealous are obvious signs of his continued interest in you. 

12. He Interacts With All of Your Social Media Posts

If your ex is all over you social media posts with likes and comments, then he might be trying to get your attention. This is an easy way for him to make you see his name and think about him often. 

So if he’s showing up and watching all of your stories and interacting with your social accounts, he might be trying to let you know he still wants you. 

13. He Drops Hints That He Wants You

There may be more subtle signs that he wants to get back together with you. He might give you little hints like joking about getting back together or sending you reminders of how good your past relationship was. 

This could be something as small as sending you a picture he came across of you two when you were dating. 

14. He Asks Mutual Friends About You

If you have common friends, this is a great way to get information about your ex. Your friends might tell you that he’s been asking questions about you. 

This means that he’s still interested in what’s going on in your life. He might be asking questions to gauge whether or not you’ve moved on. 

15. He Always Wishes You a Happy Birthday

Have you been apart for years? But your ex never misses the chance to wish you a happy birthday? 

If so, he might still be in love with you. Most exes don’t wish each other happy birthday unless they split on good terms and have remained friends. If you haven’t maintained a relationship otherwise, he might be into and using your birthday as an excuse to talk to you. 

Happy Birthday from ex boyfriend means he misses you

16. He’s Not Making Plans

If you’re still in contact with your ex, you might know what’s going on in his life. It may seem like he’s putting his life on hold and not really moving forward. 

When he doesn’t make future plans, this might mean he’s waiting to see what happens with you. After all, he doesn’t want to be unavailable if you’re still interested in him too. 

17. Your Ex Frequents Your Favorite Spots

Do you have a favorite restaurant, bar, or other hang out spot that you keep seeing your ex at? He might be frequenting places you go to often just for the chance to run into you. This is a good sign that he still has feelings for you.

18. He Hates That You Blocked Him on Social Media

If you received a bad reaction from blocking him from your social accounts, this might be because he hates losing access to you. If he tries things like using fake accounts to spy on you, you know that he still needs to know what you have going on.

19. Your Ex Drunk-Texts You

You might be getting weird text messages at night when he’s been partying. This is one of the most common signs that he’s missing you. 

He might not tell you how he feels normally. However, after a night out he ends up going home alone and wondering what it is you’re doing.

20. He Contacts You About Little Things

Your ex-boyfriend might keep contacting you about really small, insignificant things. Maybe he’s wondering if you still have his old sweatshirt or what the name of that movie was called. 

The real reason he is contacting you about small things is so he can talk to you. So, he will find an excuse with something insignificant to ask you about.

21. He Maintains Contact With Your Family

A lot of people cut ties with their ex’s family once the relationship ends. If he is trying to maintain relationships with your family members, he might have hopes for a future with you. 

This isn’t always the case, we know other people, like our parents, become close to who we’re dating. But he isn’t likely to put in a ton of effort if he doesn’t care about his relationship with you.  

22. He Asks a Lot of Questions About Who You’re Dating

When your ex still has feelings for you, he will be really interested in anyone new that you date. He might ask you or mutual friends a ton of questions about the new guy you’re seeing. This level of interest is a sure sign of jealousy and possible hidden feelings. 

23. Your Ex-Boyfriend Makes It Obvious He’s Trying to Make You Jealous

If your ex’s behavior is a bit ridiculous when it comes to making you jealous, then he’s probably not over you. While he might just be trying to cause problems for other reasons, he most likely wouldn’t waste his time trying to fire you up if he didn’t still care how you felt.  

24. He Won’t Let You Have a Clean Break

Your ex-boyfriend might be making it really hard for you to have a clean break. This can look like him starting arguments with you, bringing up things from the past, and always continuing the breakup conversation. 

This shows that he isn’t ready to let go of the relationship in a way that will give you both closure.

25. His Friends Reach Out to You

If one of his friends have been there for him through the breakup, they might reach out to you. As a concerned friend, it’s difficult to watch someone go through a heartbreak. 

If your ex has mentioned to them that he misses you and wants the relationship back, the friend might reach out to you to let you know what’s going on. The friend might be hoping to help get you back together. 

26. He’s Working on His Physical Appearance

This sign is common among men who were broken up with. If you ended things, he might be thinking that it was due to his looks among other things. 

ex boyfriend starts working out because he misses you

He now thinks that if he can get in the best shape ever, it will get you back. If he has started working out, dieting, and stepping up his physical appearance, he might be trying to get your attention.

27. He’s Constantly Partying

While the freedom after a breakup might make anyone get out a little more often, your ex might be going out too much. 

If you notice that he’s constantly partying, he might be looking for an escape from his feelings for you. He thinks that if he can preoccupy himself in this way, he won’t miss you as much. 

28. He Publicizes His Love Life

Did your ex not post a lot on social media in the past? But now he is sharing photos of every little thing he does with his new love interest?

This may be a sign that he’s not over you. If he needs to make sure you see him with someone new, he might be trying to make you jealous or realize what you’ve lost.

29. Your Ex Purposely Dates People You Know

Do you have a mortal enemy? Or a close friend? Your ex could go after either of these people when he still has feelings for you. 

If he’s dating someone you know, it might be just to get a rise out of you. He may try someone in your friend group or someone that he knows you dislike. His hope is that it will bother you enough to fight for him or let him know that it bothers you.

30. He Blocks Then Unblocks You

If your ex blocks then unblocks you, this may be a sign that he is open to talking to you after having no contact for a while. In the heat of the moment, he didn’t want to talk to you and didn’t want you to see what he was up to. 

When he unblocks you, this is his way of letting the wall down a bit to see if you’ll try to contact him now. He may also be unblocking you to be able to check up on you himself.

31. He Wants to Remain Friends

His plea to still be friends might be a last effort to keep you in his life. After all, we know it’s difficult to maintain a friendship with your ex. 

A lot of times this effort is made because there are still feelings there and the thought of not having someone in your life at all is worse than trying to navigate the waters of a post-breakup friendship. 

32. Your Ex is Suddenly Being Really Nice to You

There may have been a period when your ex was cold after the breakup. He was probably upset and hurt. 

Now, if he’s suddenly being really nice to you, he might be trying to get back in your good graces. If he is being sweet to you, it might be because he wants to be with you again. 

33. He Has Trouble Talking to You or Seeing You

If he has deep feelings for you, he might have trouble talking to you or seeing you. You’ll be able to see this by the way he acts around you. 

Does he avoid talking to you when you see each other? Or has he cut contact? If so, he might be protecting himself. 

34. He Contacts You Even When He’s Dating Someone Else

You may think that because he’s with someone new that he’s moved on. However, if he is still talking to you even though he’s dating someone else, he might still be interested in you. 

35. He Gets Emotional When You Talk

If your ex cries or gets really emotional when you talk, it’s because he still has feelings for you. He might be mourning the relationship and how things used to be between you too. 

ex gets emotional when you talk because he still loves you

Talking to you brings up feelings for him and it can be hard to even have a conversation with you.

36. He Writes You Long Letters

Sometimes people don’t feel like they are able to communicate their feelings well. Writing letters or long emails is a way for them to get out all of their feelings at once. 

If your ex is sending you a lot of communication this way, he is probably trying to work things out and share his feelings for you. This may be an attempt to clear things up so he can either move on or try again. 

37. He Still Helps You

Why would your ex still want to help you even after you’ve broken up? Because he cares about you! If he’s still helping you out with things post-breakup, then he’s letting you know he is still there for you. This could be in a friendly manner or a way for him to let you know that he still wants to be with you. 

38. Your Ex Posts About You

Unfortunately, people have turned to social media to post obscure, indirect things on social media in attempts to get people’s attention. If you see him posting things about missing someone, hating being single, and other things that pertain to your old relationship, he is probably missing you and trying to get your attention. 

This is a way for people who aren’t great at communicating directly to let others know how they feel. 

39. He Stares at You When He Sees You

If your ex stares at you when he sees you it can mean he still has feelings for you. He might be noticing how attractive you are. Or he may be remembering things about the relationship when he looks at you. 

40. He Tries to Sabotage Your New Relationships 

If you’re living the nightmare of your ex contacting the person you’re now with, it’s probably because he still loves you. He might not be able to stand the fact that you’re with someone new. His only way of solving the problem for himself is to try to break you two apart. 

41. He Texts You on Holidays

If he always makes a point to contact you during holidays and on dates that are important to you, he might still have romantic feelings for you. He wants you to know that he’s thinking of you and that you’re important enough for him to make an effort for. 

ex boyfriend texts you on holidays because he's still into you


There are many signs that could mean your ex-boyfriend is missing you. While no one action is a sure way to prove how he feels, you can use these signs as a guide to figuring out what his true feelings are. 

Whether he’s hiding his feelings or trying to leave you hints that he still loves you, you’ll need to look for signs to be sure. Use this list to determine where you stand with your ex. This can help you if you’re wanting to give things another chance or if you’re just trying to figure out why he’s doing certain things and acting the way he does. 

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